Kyle Schwarber (after going 3-for-4 with 2 home runs and a triple, but is still hitting .188 on the season): I feel like the work I've been doing with the hitting coaches is paying off and I just have to stay the course. I can't worry about results. I just have to worry about the process. Today was a good day!
This summer, my family and I purchased a summer bowling pass so we could bowl as often as we'd like and not have to pay anything each time. We had a great time and went quite often, but each day we went there were either arguments or tears because my niece doesn't have a growth mindset just yet (see - I have a growth mindset and believe she will EVENTUALLY believe in growth mindset!).
You see, whenever my 12-year old nephew Tyler beat my 10-year old niece Ashley in a game, she would have a breakdown. She only cared about winning and didn't see how improving her skills as a bowler was worth her time. She wanted IMMEDIATE RESULTS. If her bowling ball hit the bumper six times but knocked down all the pins, she felt extremely happy (even though it was luck that made the pins fall down & not skill). However, if she managed to get the ball down the lane without hitting the bumper and only knocked down 5 pins, she was upset (even though that was a MUCH better shot and would eventually lead to better overall bowling scores).
Her mom tried to help her by giving her some tips, which she seemed to appreciate, but when her grandmother tried to give tips to my nephew, Ashley immediately got upset. To someone watching this unfold, it was kind of confusing! I mean, why would someone get upset that people are trying to help inexperienced bowlers get better? Well, Ashley only thought about WINNING and didn't think much about IMPROVING and she was mad that her brother was already a little better of a bowler than she was and now someone was helping him get even better, which wouldn't allow her to beat him! The adults who were bowling were only interested in helping the kids become better bowlers. Ashley was only interested in winning, even if it meant becoming a worse bowler to do so.
This mindset focuses only on results, stops you from improving, and ultimately causes you to get beaten worse and worse as others improve their skills. Until finally you refuse to bowl anymore because you're too embarrassed to be so bad compared to everyone else. This could all have been avoided by having a growth mindset. If Ashley had just realized that she was inexperienced at bowling and would eventually get better with coaching and practice and asking others for advice, she would have continued to improve. One day, she might have passed her brother's ability in bowling and eventually beaten him with skill rather than luck (unless he worked just as hard as she did). The goal shouldn't be to win, but to improve your skills in areas that you feel are worth the time and effort to do so.
Not everything in school is motivating and fun, but almost everything we're going to do this year is important and deserves your full effort and a growth mindset! It's in your best interest to try to seek out feedback and coaching so you can take it and try to improve your skills. These skills will be the foundation for so many more skills you'll be learning in middle school, high school, and beyond! Whenever anyone takes the time to help you improve, you need to be open to it, and appreciate their advice no matter how it feels, because they're taking the time to try to help you improve and become a stronger YOU!